Most often, when I share the story of the breakdown is my marriage, I’ll use the term radical responsibility. In that instance, I mean that we both to 100% responsibility for the breakdown in our marriage. It was not 50/50, it was 100/100. The only way that we could move forward and create a breakthrough was to be 100% responsible for our actions and choice that contributed to that situation.
You are also 100% responsible for the results created by the choices that you make. Anything less, puts you in the role of victim and passive participant in your life. This is not meant to sound or be harsh, please hear me out.
How many times have you been surprised at a situation or circumstance that you found yourself or someone else in and wondered how or why this happened? We’ve all been there.
For example, did you ever know someone who smoked cigarettes for 30 years, had an unhealthy diet, and was under stress most of the time? One day they have a heart attack, or a stroke or maybe even a diagnosis of lung cancer caused by smoking. Everyone acts surprised, shocked even that they are an unfortunate victim of such a diagnosis.
Again, not trying to being mean or harsh here but let’s be honest. The real truth is that the health situation of that friend or family member is a direct result of the choices they made in their life. This is not to shame, blame or guilt anyone who is fighting for their lives after a serious health diagnosis. What I am saying is that we need to stop acting like unwilling victims of the choices we willingly make and take radical responsibility of the results we are creating in our lives.
At any given point in our lives we have choices. YES. NO. STOP. GO. UP. DOWN. There are consequences to every choice that we make. Some are immediate and some take more time to be revealed but, we do have choices. We have to stop being a victim to the results of those choices and use those results to learn, grow and make better choices moving forward.
Take the formula S + R = R
S = any given SITUATION R = your RESPONSE or REACTION R = RESULTS
There are situations that we find ourselves in that we have no control. Heck, just look at this past year of 2020. Most of us have just experienced the most challenging year, globally, in our lifetime. Some of us fared better than others but we were all affected in one way or another. But in any situation that we find ourselves in, of our own choosing or not, what we can choose is how we respond or react the situation.
The middle R is up to you. You choose to have a “knee-jerk” reaction or a well thought out responsible response. Either way, whatever choice you make, determines your results. And you get to take responsibility for the choices you make in any given situation.
We are missing the ability to own up to our choices and to realize that active responsibility for our choices in our own lives will create happier, healthier, more successful lives personally and professionally. And isn’t that what we all want?
In a few weeks, we will be entering a new year. Typically, a new year is met with hope, anticipation and resolutions. Honestly, I have no idea what to expect in 2021. But, what I do know is that “if it’s to be, it’s up to me” in the hopes and dreams of my life.
Taking responsibility for your choices. Making better choices. Seeing better results. It’s all yours for the taking. Sometimes, knowing what the right choice is can be daunting. Sustaining new habits that get you better results is not easy. Like a rubber band, we fall back in the the more comfortable and familiar way of being and we keep getting frustrated with ourselves for not sticking with it.
That’s where I come in. Lets you and I get on a call and set up a game plan for you to get the results that you want in your life and business. If you don’t do anything, nothing will change. Not that it’s bad, it just won’t be any better unless you are an active participant in the creation of the change you want to see in your life.
Life is now and as we’ve seen in this last year, can change in a moment. It’s time to stop putting your life on hold and live your best life now. Stop sacrificing your health, your well-being and your relationships and wishing for something different…better.
Go to www.talkwitheva.com and let’s get you the game plan that will give you better choices and better results. I can’t wait to meet you!
All the best,